You are so filled with excitement over your upcoming wedding – and want to tell EVERYONE all about your plans; actually, you would shout your plans from the roof top if you could! But take our advice – please do not. Of course, it is perfectly fine to share some of your wedding details with your nearest and dearest (close family and wedding party members) but there should be an element of surprise on your big day.
Below are listed some of the wedding details you should avoid sharing before the actual event:
The Dress and Attire
Please, we are telling you now: Everyone will want to see a picture of what you are wearing. But we recommend keeping your attire a secret from most of your guests until the big day. You want the gasps of delight when you first walk down the aisle to be genuine, and you never know – some Debbie Downer might say something negative about your ensemble before the big day that may make you doubt your decision.
Hair and Makeup Choices
“How are you wearing your hair?” is a common question, and like your dress, there is no need to tell everyone about your intended hairstyle or makeup choices. Everyone will likely have an opinion about how you should look on your wedding day – but in the end, it is up to you (with the help of your hair stylist and makeup artist) to decide. Simply state “I haven’t figured it out yet” to change the subject.
Color Scheme and Decor
Again, with the element of surprise. You do not want your guests to walk into your reception and know all your wedding details beforehand – a little anticipation is much more fun. There is no reason you need to tell them every detail about your décor in advance, and if they press you for answers, just say “We want you to be surprised!”
First Dance Song
Your first dance song is a very personal choice, and not all your guests will “get it.” But that does not matter. Even if you are picking a more traditional song, there is no need to share it in advance with everyone. You may pick up some unwanted comments or even criticism (“Oh really? That’s a weird song.”) – and who needs that?
Guest List Details
Try to avoid giving out too much information about your wedding guest list to others. You may get a lot of questions about why certain people were or were not invited, and it can turn into a sticky situation. Of course, your close family members should be aware of the invite list, but there is need to take it too far beyond that. And related to that, it is best to keep the reception seating arrangements private as well!
Think of your wedding favors as a gift to your guests – and most of the time, you do not tell people about gifts (whether it is birthday, holiday, whatever) in advance. So, any favors or giveaways should be among the wedding details kept private, except for anyone who is helping to assemble or purchase your favors.
Whether you are planning a fun sparkler sendoff, having a photo booth, or you and your dad are performing a wacky dance together, do not ruin your wedding details and surprises by spilling the beans! Even if you just tell one person (and swear them to secrecy), you run the risk of your entire guest list finding out about that thing that it going to make your wedding totally unique. So, keep any surprise wedding elements to yourself (and your future spouse and wedding planner, of course!).